For many years I didn’t know who I was or what my place in the world was meant to be. Throughout my late teens and most of my twenties I kept diaries, writing down my thoughts and what was happening around me. I had no idea then, that this was a form of self-help.
Eventually I fell in love, it just happened to be with a woman. In my head I thought I must be bisexual and that any desires I had for men would be put to one side, ignored.
I went into my marriage convinced that this was the right thing to do because I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with that person.
After years of constant turmoil, grappling with my sexuality, my subconcious led me to out myself to my wife. It was traumatic and painful and eventually saw the end of our marriage.
The only way I could deal with it was to write about my experience and the stories of other gay men who had been in a similar situation. This then became my therapy and a way of dealing with the hurt I had caused.
Writing my books has opened up a whole new world to me. Each one has been a step in my coming out story. I have met many people and done things I would never have been able to do without facing my truth and talking about it. And in doing so, I hope I have given some courage to others to do the same.